The Michael That I Choose To See

Michael Jackson and I are relatively the same age - separated by about 16 months. His untimely death and my impending 50th birthday has caused me to do a great deal self reflection. I'm more focused than ever on living my dreams and trying to be happy for, as evidenced by Michael, Bernie Mac, Isaac Hayes, Farah Fawcett, Billy Mays, David Carradine, Gerald Levert, Sean Levert and others, tomorrow is not promised.



His death has touched me, troubled me, hurt me. As a young girl, my bedroom walls were plastered with Jackson 5 photos. I would save every dime to buy a teen magazine for another photo to add to my collection. The first concert I ever attended was to see the Jackson 5. I wrote Michael countless, nine-year-old-never-mailed-fan-letters.

So much has been written and said about Michael's life - there's not much left to say. As I struggled to process his death along with all that's occuring in my life, I received an email from a friend of mine, Linda Jones of Dallas, whose words fully captured my feelings about Michael, his death and how I choose to remember him. You may read The Michael That I Choose To See here.

I haven't had much time to blog. Despite less frequent updates I am encouraged by the constant emails and messages I receive from queens who are discovering their inner beauty and strength through their naturalness, Sisterlocks and Natural Awakenings.

My locks remain healthy and strong. Not much change other than added length. My Sisterlocks customer base continues to grow and I am blessed. I am awaiting certification notifcation from the Home Office.



Until then, I ask that you lift me as I lift you.

Peace, abundant blessings and light.

BlaqKofi

Mad love to lilchocolategurl.

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Post Script. I posted this about 2:30 p.m. Went for a run, came back and in that short period of time I learned that we have now lost Steve McNair. More proof that tomorrow....?????

4 Years To-Da-Day & Stronger

On this day, four years ago, I was anxiously preparing to arrive at Gigi's shop to begin my Sisterlocks journey. Little did I know of the transformation that would occur both externally and internally, making me a better, stronger woman. It has indeed been a Natural Awakening beyond measure.

I have much to share and reflect on - so drop back for some Sisterlocks Blaq'isms and, of course, more Sisterlocks photos!

Until then

Peace, abundant blessings, and light.

Photographer: DH

Don't be a Lockzilla!

Tonita from LockItUp posted this yesterday. I reprint it here, slightly modified, with her consent. It was too good not to share!

Are you a good customer? On time, clean hair, discussing any concerns you have with your consultant?

Sisterlocks is not a hobby, it's a business. Just like with most business owners, a Sisterlocks consultant wants to do a good job and needs satisfied customers. I've read many posts about great consultants who are professional and conscientious.

A trainee may be slower at an install and retightening, but her speed will catch up with her training. Don't be too hard on the beginners.

As a customer, follow your consultant's advice, wear a scarf or other cover on your locks to reduce lint buildup, no oily products, heavy conditioners, use the Sisterlocks Starter Shampoo recommended, braid and band.

If you want to DIY (do-it-yourself) take the retightening class after six months of loc'dom. There are no short cuts to successful locking. Consultants want you to enjoy your natural transition.

Many consultants probably have Lockzilla stories that you never hear about: hard to please customers, missed appointments, late, unclear hair, not calling...

Don't be a Lockzilla!

Introducing....

I'm proud to introduce my second and third full install clients. Both are beautiful spirits - inside and out. Please join me in welcoming them to the Sisterlocks family.

Client #2



Client No. 2 has some breakage and sparceness along the front hairline. I'm confident it will grow and fill in with time. In the meantime, she's purchased lots of funky, cute and fun headbands to wear. I spritzed her completed locks with water and rolled them on SoftSpiker curlers to add volume. I allowed her locks to air dry while we discussed washing techniques, banding and braiding and lock care. I removed the SS, finger combed and added her headband for a finished look.


Client #3



Client No. 3 had 8 inches of all natural, beautiful hair. It was a real treat to install her locks. After completing the front sections of her hair, I spritzed with water, braided and left in place while I locked the back sections. I then spritzed and braided the back sections. Her hair air dryed while we dicussed lock care, washing, banding and braiding. I took the braids down, spritzed her ends lightly with water, rolled them on SoftSpike curlers and sat her under the dryer for 30 minutes. This gave her a crinkly, curly look with volume which she loved.

I preferred using the Soft Spike curlers rather than heat on both of their completed locks. Their hair was soft, absorbed water quickly and I knew it would dry quickly. Using the Soft Spikes gave them a style that would last for several days as they became acquainted with their natural freedom.



Blaq's on her way to certification y'all! Look forward to my upcoming 4 year lockversary post next week.

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And the Color Is...

Rockstar inquired about my new hair color. I wondered if anyone noticed. Let me go ahead and through this disclaimer out there first - I DO NOT RECOMMEND COLOR for those who are not completely locked. Consult your loctician first.

I admired the hair color of two Sisterlocks wearers I met during my consultant training. In speaking to them individually, I learned they both use and recommend Naturtint. Coincendentally, they both use the Hazelnut Blonde color which I found so becoming against their brown skin tone. I'd often stop and examine the Naturtint green box at the health food store, but passed it up primarily because I didn't know anyone who had ever used it AND the people on the boxes looked nothing like me.

I needed two boxes of Hazelnut. There was only one on the shelf. So I thought I'd try the Dark Golden Blonde, a close and complimentary color. I used Hazelnut in the front section of my hair and Dark Golden Blonde in the back - no specific reason - just something I tried. I'm pretty happy with the results. The two colors compliment each other and my natural hair color nicely, giving my locks a highlighted look without the harshness of bleaching. Again, not scientific - just something I tried. Later in researching the product more, I learned the following:

Naturtint is a permanent hair colorant with vegetable ingredients. It is enriched with wheat, soy, corn and oat plant protein complex designed for hair restructuring and protection. Naturtint contains no ammonia and its raw materials are of the highest cosmetic quality. Naturtint is made up of a range of 28 different tones which can be mixed together to produce infinite color ranges so as to achieve a unique, personal tone. Naturtint completely covers all normal grey hair, its effects do not wash out and it is gentle on even the most fragile hair.

Who knew?

BlaqKofi

Sisterlocks - Study & Know Thy Self

There's been a recent Lock-It-Up thread with people complaining about their Sisterlocks installs and/or consultants. It serves as a good learning tool for newbies and those contemplating locking. Of course, I shared my opinion, expanded here along with photos for my readers.

"I've only had my locs for about 5 days. My hair was 3-4 inches in length. I had a trainee do my hair and it took her apprx 30 hours (not including the breaks) and I don't think that's normal.

The average from what I've seen is 15-20 hours. I think it took her so long because she made them so tiny, I don'tknow how many I have, I got tired of counting at 200 from just the sides and a portion of the top. If I can guess I probably have between 600-800 in my head but they are super thin.

As for price, I paid what I considered to be the average around here, but I thought trainees charged less, obviously not in my case.

As for me liking my hair, honestly after the 2nd day I started freaking out not liking the loose ends and there were holes in my locks where they were not installed tightly I guess. Just being hypercritical and over analyzing. But after talking with a couple of SL ladies... I've calmed down and learned to accept my hair. If I had it to do over again, I would have researched better than what I did by getting references from actual clients other than just looking at pics and demanded she use the correct tools in doing my hair."

Blaq's Response

Try not to fret too much. I've been reading all of the threads on Lock-It-Up about misrepresented locks. But give them a chance AND your consultant. It's only been five days. Your hair is going to change so much and so quickly...Take that energy and educate yourself. Read blogs, look at photos. Go to my blog and click on the 2005 link on the left and view my early photos. You'll see how rapidly your locks will change.

BlaqKofi Sisterocked 2 days/2 weeks

And don't micro examine every lock - cause I can assure you, not everyone of mine is 100% perfect and my consultant has over 15 years in the business. When hair locks it begins to intertwine around itself. The hair that used to come out in our combs and brushes begins to encircle itself in a cylinder form - thus locking. It's not a perfect cylinder - how could it be? It's a bunch of individual hairs - thus individual locks.

Regarding discounts, Trainees MAY offer an introductory price for new clients, but it's NOT a requirement. I offer an introductory price for my first three clients, for entrusting me and my skills and for helping me to become certified. I explain thoroughly during my consultations that they in return will get a quality product, but it's going to take a time commitment.

My first installation took 30 hours, she had 6 inches of hair and we only stopped for a 30 minute lunch. I was really questioning myself - comparing myself to others who had done this many years more than me. I spoke to several consultants who reassured me that my install time was not very different and even less in some cases than others and my speed would increase given time. I'm proud when I see the work I produced and my client's happy face. Besides, she's my walking, talking advertisement. Accuracy and a quality product were more important than speed. My speed, I can work on; but you never get a second chance to make a good first impression. Her Sisterlocks had to be correct.



1st Client day 1/3 wks later

Taking breaks is important for a quality product. Your consultant is usually standing on her feet the entire time. If she's tired, you'll get a tired looking product. That's why I always schedule my clients over a two-day period.

I looked at your photos and your grids and the number of locks appear to be in line with what is taught in the Consultant's class. Your locks well swell to 100% of their current size, so naturally they are small. That's a primary Sisterlocks characteristic which allows you more styling flexibility.

Finally, the ends of your locks are not suppossed to be locked during installation. They'll turn into cute curly ques initially, then evolve into little balls which will eventually drop off and the ends will seal. That's all part of the locking process which takes time and patience. Four years later, I still have some unlocked ends.

I say be observant, be informed, be educated about your hair and Sisterlocks. Don't be hesitant to discuss your concerns with your Consultant. Perhaps she can alleviate your anxiety and repair any locks you have concerns with. This also lets her know that you're educated about the process and she may up her game, if that's the case.

Until then sit back and chill. Remember why you chose to lock in the first place. And relish how good your head of natural hair feels.

I like the response Tonita posted on LockItUp to someone complaining about their locks not "being perfect."

"I have been SL'd for over 2 years. My locks are not perfect nor did I think they would be since my hair isn't perfect. Like most with locks they have bumps, knots, thin and thick spots, etc., etc. Overall, you can't tell, the imperfections are hidden.

Your locks will swell and settle and you may wonder why was I so distraught? Locks aren't perms or weaves or wigs that look "perfect" out of the chair. Locks mature over time. The first change is convenience, the second is settling, the third is growth and more change.

If you decide to get locks, do your research. What will my new locks look like? What is the locking and retightening process? Can I love my nappy hair? Do I have the PATIENCE to lock?

Don't get caught up in lock envy. Love your locks at every stage. They will grow into the head of beautiful locks that initially caught your attention."

Dont' get it twisted. Sisterlocks aren't perfect, they're not supposed to be. Do your part - study and know thy self then watch your locks grow charactistically and uniquely into you.

Natural Awakenings...

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Lord, Please Give Me Good Hair

When I was around the age of 6 or 7 my mom and I were watching Ike & Tina Turner on some variety show. They'd sing Proud Mary and when they got to the "rollin, rollin', rollin' on the river...doo duh, doo, doo fast part, the Ikettes would join Tina on stage with all this energy and this hair! This straight "white girl" hair. They were slinging it and flinging it. I was mesmerized. I'd never seen anything like it, Black women with "straight hair." In awe I asked my mom...

B: Momma, how'd they get their hair like that?

M: They're wigs.

B : Then how can they shake their heads like that without it coming off?

M: It's sown into their scalp.

B: Thinks, silently: wow that must really hurt...but to have hair like that would be worth it!

"Lord, please give me good hair." That was my prayer as a child. After all, both my sisters had "good hair." Thus being spared the Saturday evening ritual of the hot comb with it's inherent ear holding and singed hair. Life, at least as far as it related to my hair, just didn't seem fair.

How I despised my own unruly hair with it's kinkiness, it's thickness. I hated even more the process I had to endure in order for it to look "good." Or perhaps the fact that I had to go through a process at all fueled my hair displeasure.

My hair felt more like a liability - a punishment rather than something to be proud of. Once processed, I became enslaved to it. "No, I can't go swimming - just got my hair straightened." "No I can't run and play, it'll sweat my hair out." I didn't want to endure my mom's wrath nor the painful wash and hot comb if I didn't have to.

Since God didn't seem to be listening, I fantasized about saving enough money to buy me some hair like Tina Turner or Diana Ross. I vowed to bravely endure any pain associated with getting that straight hair sown into my scalp. Afterall, it couldn't be any worse than what I already endured with my kinky hair.

Little did I know that the hair that graced my head was the very hair I prayed for. That the same thick, unruly, kinky hair I despised was indeed an asset.  I have hair that I can style, grow down my back, cut, curl, krinkle, pin up, swim and exercise in, walk-in-the-rain, ride-with-the-windows-down, wash-whenever-I-want-to, go-to-bed-looking-pretty, wake-up-looking-pretty, or do-absolutely-nothing-and-still-look-pretty-kinda-hair!

Hair that makes me feel good about me. Hair that makes me proud. And, oh yeah, hair that I can sling and fling, just like Tina and the Ikettes!



Thank you Lord for answering prayers, for Sisterlocks, for natural awakenings and for giving me "good hair."

BlaqKofi

(Photographer: T)

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Sisterlocks & Race for the Cure

I'm thankful to be able to particiate in Race for the Cure with my lil sis, T, this weekend. Our fourth consecutive year and going strong with God's grace. My Shero!

My Sisterlocks at 46m. Still lovin' em more and more.

(Photographer: T)

BlaqKofi's First Installation

I completed my first installation last week. It was a learning as well as moving experience to personally introduce someone to the freedom of Sisterlocks. A thousand thanks to my first client, I'll affectionately refer to her as "Abuelita," for her patience and confidence in me and my abilities.

I visited a Harlem Renaissance traveling exhibit at my local museum of art this past week and was moved by this photo taken by James VanDerZee in 1928 entitled, "Cosmeticians." (I couldn't find a larger image to share.)

I stood there, gazing at each beautiful, black, hopeful face. I looked again at each, studying their processed hair and the significance of my first Sisterlocks installation took on greater personal meaning for me. I am thankful to live in a time where I can witness the first African American President and women of color proudly wear their kinky crowns of hair glory for the world to see. I reflected on my client's beaming face as she looked in the mirror and saw for the first time her own beauty in its most natural form. Mental chains broken and one more walking, talking, sharing Sisterlocks soldier - powerful!

Perhaps these photos from 1928 and 2009 can communicate more succinctly the progress we have made as African American women in our self knowledge and awareness.

Cosmeticians, 1928

Lockticians, 2009

Thank you to all the Oklahoma sisters who have given me such a warm reception. I'm proud to play a small role in our natural freedom because as I always say, "it's natural to be natural."

BlaqKofi

Sisterlocks Training Associate

Hair Ties!

I love hair ties every since Brunsli introduced me to them over 3 years ago. They are the most comfortable and stylish way I've found to secure my Sisterlocks. They keep my locks off my neck during the hot, humid days of summer, keeps them out of the way when I'm at the lake water sking or working in the yard and holds them securely up at night protecting my locks and prolonging my hairstyles.

Hair ties are fashionable, easy to use and don't snag or pull my Sisterlocks.

I recently discovered Erama Custom Jewelry and Hair Ties. A site full of custom, hand-made, beautiful and affordable ties and custom jewelry.

Be sure to check out Erama's and give hair ties a try for yourself. You can mix and match for any occassion. For an evening out, curl locks, secure with a hair tie and pull out several curly locks around the face for a soft, sophisticated look.

I'm certain once you've used them, you'll want one for every occassion and outfit. To see how hair ties work, click here.

Click the Hair Ties! title above to visit Erama's site or see the link under My Favorite Sites in the left column. I just received my first two Erama's ties and have my eye on quite a few others for work and play.

(Hairstyles Top2Bottom: Braidout secured with hair tie; loosely curled locks secured high w/hair tie; tightly curled locks secured w/hair tie. Photo of my son & granddaughter.)

(Note: Hair ties worn in these pics were all created by Brunsli and are what I affectionately call B-Ties or Brunsli-Ties throughout countless posts.)

Mom, Mother LoLo & Mother GC

Mom Sisterlocked 20M

67 y/o

I was contacted last week by two elders (a term of respect) ironically within two days of each other. Both were inspired by mom's Sisterlocks photos.

Mother Lolo, 62 years of age, has been locked since June 08 and simply needed a little encouragement. You know the stage we all go through when we're anxiously waiting for that Sisterlocks growth spurt and feeling a little uncertain. We're ready for our babies to grow long, strong and thick.

Mother GC of Ohio, described herself as 62 y/o, retired and turning grey. She was getting Sisterlocks installed this past week and was a little anxious and uncertain about what to expect - just as we all were.

How awesome that our elders are embracing their natural beauty! Mother Lolo hang in there. I assure you, you'll be a natural hair role model for others soon. Mother GC, welcome home to Sisterlocks and natural freedom. Your "small locks" will soon thicken to even more beautiful tresses.

I've never met either of you, but I'm just as proud as I am of my mom. I'm honored that you considered BlaqKofi and Natural Awakenings a resource. You've made the biggest step already - you're home now. Relax and enjoy each stage of your Sisterlocks growth. Here's some of mom's transition photos for further inspiration.

To my readers, please give Mother LoLo & Mother GC some Sisterlocks love and encouragement.

Mom Day 1/6 Wks

Mom Day 1/4 Months

Mom @ 20M

Introducing...

The Houston '09 Sisterlocks Training Class

New Friends
I met some wonderful sisters in the training. Thanks to everyone who allowed me to take and post their photos. Shout out to Ms. Cleburne (you know who you are!) Enjoyed meeting you girl.

Master Trainer
To say I have an entirely new perspective on Sisterlocks and Dr. Cornwell would be a major understatement. This new admiration and appreciation is due to my Master Trainer. She was phenomenal in her presentation and knowledge of Sisterlocks. If I was a business owner, this is the type of person I'd want representing my organization. Kudo's to Dr. C 'cause yo girl did you and Sisterlocks proud and righteous.

She ran a tight ship and made sure that we left there with all the information, tools and techniques needed to fully represent Sisterlocks and Dr. Cornwell. She shared a wealth of Sisterlocks and business knowledge along with wonderful and often funny anecdotes that we could all relate to. She is consistently true to Dr. Cornwell's vision and guidelines. She has my full respect and admiration and check out her beautiful Sisterlocks.

Commissioned
Anyone who visits my blog knows that I LOVE Sisterlocks. My training has heightened that love with a true appreciation for the commitment and ingenuity of Dr. Cornwell. What she has done for us as African-American women is quite phenomenal.

She was ingenuous enough to create a method that takes advantage of our POSITIVE hair attributes allowing us the flexibility and freedom to style, cut, color and grow our hair in its natural state. Sisterlocks breaks mental and physical chains of hair bondage. It's the natural freedom I so often write about. Talk about seeing the glass half full! Then to have the fortitude to perform trial and error on her own hair for years - amazing! Look at my day one install photos. Then view my current photos. We know what to expect during that transition from install to settling phase thanks to Dr. Cornwell. But she had no web sites or blogs to refer to, no LockItUp discussion board to seek advance from - just her resolve.

I've been a walking, talking Sisterlocks advertisement since I got them almost four years ago. After my consultant training I feel as if I've been promoted from Sisterlocks soldier to Sisterlocks officer. I've been commissioned.

Through my blog and now as a consultant trainee, I'm proud to be able to introduce others to the same hair and life freedom Dr. Cornwell and Sisterlocks has gifted me.

Afterall, I always say, "it's natural to be natural."

Thanks Dr. C.

BlaqKofi
Sisterlocks Training Associate

Malcolm Turns Two!

Today, Malcolm turns two. He's 29 lbs of energy and affection.

Happy Birthday, Malcolm. Dad & I love you!

Locks On Da Slopes

DH surprised me with a getaway ski weekend to celebrate our 1st anniversary. The weather was perfect, the lift lines short, the slopes nicely groomed and the scenery breathtaking. An excellent skier and teacher, he gently challenged me to challenge myself and I ski'd runs I wouldn't have thought of last year. It was a wonderful and special weekend. Thanks, honey. Your support strengthens me.

(Hair: Week old bendable roller set.)

Sisterlocks - Transitions

On February 14, my consultant, Gigi and fellow consultant Tafi hosted a "Customer Appreciation" event. Their invitation described the day perfectly. Here's a written and visual recap of a beautiful day of Sisterlocks and Sisterhood.

"Here we are, the dawn of a new day in a new year with a new president, a new outlook, and most importantly a new you to celebrate!

Let's come together to share these things: our natural 'hairstory' and our caring for each other.We'll enjoy pure food, curly fun, springy information, nappy updates, natural relaxation services, twisty new products, and more.Additionally, meet new Sisterlock friends and get caught-up with old ones.

What's in store: Vendors (i.e. hair jewelry, botanical skincare, African quilts, massage therapist and wonderful vegan food."

Tafi's Mini Hair Show & Wrapping Techniques
(View Tafi's styling talents in second slideshow below.)

And lots of Sisterlocks and Styles!

Gigi - Transitions
Gigi announced after over 30+ years in the hair care industry she is transitioning to her next higher good - that of being a Life Coach. It was a bittersweet moment as she announced that most of her clients would transition to Tafi. Her clients already know of her calming nature and insight. Undoubtedly, she'll be a successful life coach. Afterall, she's been unofficially coaching everyone who has had the privilige of sitting in her chair, particularly me. You can visit her coaching site at Gretchel Johnson Coaching.

Tafi - Transitions
Tafi is fast becoming one of the premier Sisterlocks Consultants in the Dallas/Fort Worth Metroplex. She has expanded Sisterlocks and natural hair care services to include washing, setting and styling. You can view her styling talents in the photos posted here. She can be reached at tafi@thatnaturalthang.com

BlaqKofi - Transitions
My blog has been my venue for educating Sisters about the beauty and freedom of naturalness and Sisterlocks. As I write this, I am in Houston, Texas attending Sisterlocks Consultant training. I moved to Oklahoma with my husband after our marriage last year and learned that there is not one certified Sisterlocks consultant nor trainee in the entire state! I've thought of taking the Sisterlocks training for some time. The right circumstances and timing presented themselves and here I am. I am so excited to have the option of not only writing and motivating sisters to their natural freedom, but actually being able to offer the service of crossing over.

For those of you in the DFW Metro, please extend your support and patronage to both Gigi and Tafi. Anyone in Oklahoma desiring to cross over or in need of retightening assistance, I would consider it a privilege to have you as my client.

But for now, I have to go and prepare my mannequin's locks for class tomorrow.

Until then, remember...

Remain focused, remain lifted and remain natural.

Blaq

Blaq Muziq

For those who like to read me and hear me - now you can. Click the blaq muziq title in the left column and enjoy a lyrical taste of BlaqKofi.  To do both simultaneously open separate windows or tabs for each and enjoy.

Anonymous, for you. Much love.







Hair: braid out.

mamma dem

I was blessed to spend this past weekend in Texas with my family. Their mere love lifts and encourages me so. We all had a great time at church followed by a fun photo shoot. Allow me to share my family - and check out how mom's locks have grown. I am so proud of her. You gone, gurl!!!!!

Mom, my sisters & me

My beautiful niece, my apprentice photographer and my road dawg! I'm slowly converting her to naturalness. She was my guest at Gigi's Customer Appreciation event on Saturday where she was introduced to every length, style, age and shade of Sisterlocks and sisters for that matter. Look forward to some great pics and a post highlighting this beautiful event full of Sisterlocked sisters and brothers.

Me & T (my little sis and my niece's mom)

I purchased my first hair ornament at Gigi's event on Saturday.
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Me and my road dawg...

I have more posts coming your way soon and, of course, more Sisterlocks photos.

Those of you emailing and giving Blaq all that sisterly love, support and encouragement - I love you from the bottom of my heart.

I simply share Blaq - my peaks and valleys with Sisterlocks and life. Cause no matter how the outside looks, no matter how long you grow your locks - what's truly within will ultimately raise its head. If it's ugly on the inside - ugly gone come out. If it's hurtin' on the inside, here comes more hurt to the detriment of you and/or others because like attracts like.

We must ask ourselves, what was my lesson? Retain the lesson, because once you've been there, you never want to return. File it away in the "dat ain't never gone happen to me again" folder and bury that which is dead so that you can give life to a greater you.

I don't have all the answers. Hell sometimes on this journey, I don't even know the questions.

Natural Awakenings - that's what it's about

Each one
teach one
reach one
lift one

And, of course, Sisterlocks.

Until then,

Remain strong, remain focused and remain true to you.

BlaqKofi

Natural Awakenings

Hair: Mom @ 16M - Caruso set. Blaq @ 44M - Caruso set on freshly retightened locks and a week old braid out.
Photographers: Blaq, Niece, T

Still I Rise - Part I

I have a tradition to begin the new year of Natural Awakenings with words of encouragement and motivation. For I have come to learn that this journey is much deeper than the external tresses that adorn our heads. I contend that the courage and strength to return to our naturalness begins internally and extends outward, a continuum of physical, emotional and spiritual growth.

It has been impossible to try to encourage and share with others when I couldn’t even encourage myself. I believed my Jan 1 post to be my last. So I must first extend sincere gratitude to my readers who placed my bruised spirit on their shoulders and through their posts helped me to once again begin to rise…

Queen Nat - Sereni-T - Love’nyalocs - Happiest Nappy - still waters - blaquegoddess - Sis RJQueen10 - Jenn - Euphoria - foxydiva - Angel Locs - Docs Locs – dewdrop – TRA – MeikMeika – iasade - Maryee - Phoenix Rising - DiVA LaReine - 3girlsmomma - Kittylocs - Naturally Free - Nu-Me – NAPturAllBluT – Luebella – NubianLockedPrincess – sauda – LaLaBooBaby - HtheRealist - new2locs – Chocolocs – Khandi - WandaWoman - Nubian1 – DaChristmasBaby – RedRose - LadyButterfly - char…and countless others -

especially my good friend, consultant and inspiration, Gigi and my little sis, T who found the strength to encourage and help to lift me even as she fights the battle with Breast Cancer. She is indeed my Shero.

As we proceed on this journey of Natural Awakenings I share with you some helpful tools that I use to assist me on my internal journey of discovering the true BlaqKofi and my purpose.

The Secret by Rhonda Byrne (DVD, Book, Audio) I own all three. This series was the start of my internal change. I recommend watching the DVD first. The audio lives in my car cd player and on my iPod. Powerful and life altering!








Loving What Is by Byron Katie – I was recently introduced to this author by my friend, consultant and unofficial life coach, Gigi through Oprah’s Soul Series. (Click the link to view Oprah's interview with Byron Katie.) I am currently reading and experiencing this life changing work.





No Matter What – Lisa Nichols I was first introduced to Lisa Nichols through The Secret. Gigi introduced me to her No Matter What audio which spoke to me so powerfully and gave me the insight to ask “a better question.” Not, “why me?,” but rather, “what did I learn from this experience?” She teaches that experiences give us two perspectives: either a really great and wonderful experience, or a really great and wonderful lesson. The key is to learn from the lessons, grow and move on to the next higher experience.

As I begin to once again rise, reflect on life’s lessons learned and God’s purpose for me, I will continue to share my Sisterlocks journey.

My prayer is that you will be inspired not only by photos of the external BlaqKofi, but you will be internally motivated to explore the greatness that lies within each of us as we continue this Natural Awakenings.

A Good Woman

A good woman is proud of herself.
She respects herself and others.
She is aware of who she is.

She neither seeks definition from the person she is with,
or does she expect them to read her mind.
She is quite capable of articulating her needs.

A good woman is hopeful. She is strong enough to make all her dreams come true. She knows love, therefore she gives love. She recognizes that her love has great value and must be reciprocated. If her love is taken for granted, it soon disappears.

A good woman has a dash of inspiration, a dabble of endurance. She knows that she will, at times, have to inspire others to reach the potential God gave them.
A good woman knows her past, understands her present
and moves toward the future.

A good woman knows God.
She knows that with God the world is her playground,
but without God she will just be played.

A good woman does not live in fear
of the future because of her past.
Instead, she understands that her life
experiences are merely lessons,
meant to bring her closer to self knowledge
and unconditional self love.

(Author unknown. Gifted to me. I in turn, gift it to you.)

BlaqKofi
(Hair: Freshly retightened day of photo.

Week old, loosely rolled, soft spike curl set.)

Photos: Courtesy of my son, KD

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BlaqKofi Wishes

Happy 2009 my beautiful nubian sisters and brothers. Thanks for all of the love and well wishes shown me regarding my 49th birthday. You have no idea how much it lifted and encouraged me during a very trying time in my life.

You all have been my blessing as I've documented my 3 and half year Sisterlocks journey. Tonight I am tired. I say remain lifted, remain enlightened and remain strong. And remember, "it's natural to be natural."

Much love always,

BlaqKofi

My 49th @ 42M on Lock Down

I won't remember my 49th as one of my happiest.

But I will remember it as a time of major personal growth,

despite how difficult, even painful it can be.

Who is this woman, BlaqKofi?

Well, she ain't no punk!

Mountain Top Experience

Crispus Attucks fell so that Rosa Parks could sit, Rosa Parks sat so that Dr. Martin Luther King could march, Dr. Martin Luther King marched so that Barack Obama could run, and Barack Obama is running so that our children and grandchildren can fly.

Today I stand taller and prouder as an African-American.

President Obama!

Moisturizers

I have received lots of questions regarding moisturizers and what I’ve used to help my locks recover. 

I’ve used a variety of products - all very good. Since I’ve used all of them intermittently for the past two or three months, I can’t say which one(s) had the most positive affect on my locks. I wish I had a more methodical process to share with you.  

I can tell you my locks are healthier than ever now that I’ve begun deep conditioning and moisturizing regularly. 

Left = Damaged locks, 9-19-08 / Right = conditioned locks, 11-1-08

I've included photos of all the products I’ve used of late. I suggest you try them out and see what works best for you.  

The winning combination for me is  Oyin’s Greg Juice and Olive Oil Moisturizing Hair Lotion (OOM).  This past weekend, I colored with Dark & Lovely, Reviving Colors, 392-Ebone Rinse.  It contains no ammonia or peroxide, provides 100% gray cover and washes out in 7 to 8 shampoos.  I washed with the SL shampoo and conditioned with the SL Reconstructor, leaving it in for 45 minutes, covered with a plastic cap.

Using a small amount of the Olive Oil moisturizer and spritzing locks lightly with diluted Oyin’s Greg Juice (½ juice, ½ water) I rolled on flex rods using a 1/2 water - 1/2 Lottabody mixture. 

I sat underneath dryer on low-moderate heat for an hour and slept in curlers. (Using the hair dryer produces a tighter, longer lasting curl and sleeping in the curlers ensure my locks completely dry.)  The next day, I had silky, soft, shiny, bouncy locks.  I've often stated this is my favorite lock style.  I don't have to worry about my locks looking good for two weeks or more.  The curls last and I'm ready for any occasion.  I can pull them up or back, dress them up or down.  (I always pull them up high at night before bed.  It preserves the curls.)

   

I came across Oyin’s Greg Juice from reading another blogger’s page. I’m sorry I can’t remember who, but thank you! I checked out the Oyin site and ordered a $15 sample kit. The Greg juice was wonderful and gave me great results. I ordered a large bottle before I had even completed the sample. 

It is very potent, requiring only a small amount to moisturize my entire head and smells so wonderful. I dilute and lightly spritz once a week to give my locks a little boost or use a small dab of OOM.  

The first time I used the Greg Juice, OOM combo, I used a larger amount of the OOM and really spritzed my locks with the Greg Juice.  As the day went on, I didn't like the feel of my locks - they felt greasy.  But by the next day, my locks had absorbed the products and felt so manageable, shiny and smelled wonderful! I've since learned a little goes a long way.   

DH now uses it on his beard and has asked me to order him a bottle.  It makes his beard soft rather than brittle and gives it a sheen.  The product was originally produced for Greg's locks, the founders cousin - thus the name, Greg Juice.  The only draw back – delivery takes 2-3 weeks and the $9 shipping fee. 

But the site is upfront and informs buyers of the 2-3 week turnaround because all of their products are hand made using “as high a percentage of organic and natural ingredients possible.” I absolutely love this stuff and highly recommend it and the Olive Oil moisturizer. My locks have NEVER felt this soft and manageable and no greasy feeling.

My readers know that I’ve never been a product junky. And if your locks are healthy and you haven’t colored or used harsh highlights, there’s nothing to say that you have to use any product other than water and a monthly deep moisturizer to keep your locks at their healthiest best!

Thanks to everyone who sent well wishes to my sister and family.  The love is appreciated by me and my lil sis.  Until we meet again....

Remain strong, motivated, lifted and natural! 

Peace & blessings,
BlaqKofi

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Hairstyles:  Top two pics prior to rinse.  All other pics -

week old flex rod set after applying rinse & deep conditioning,

Greg Juice & OOM.

Click on Oyin Greg Juice to link to their site.

Blaq-To-Date @ 40M

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I have a big work event coming up, so I've been working long hours, and life's been busy. I'm accumulating a wealth of pics to share. Not much time to write, but here's some visuals to hold ya tight till I'm scribin' again. I appreciate how y'all hang in there with a sistuh.

My locks are reviving nicely. The moisturizing has worked wonders. My locks look healthy, shiny and strong. Got my SL vibe back!

DH took me to see The Color Purple in Dallas. It was awesome! The singing and dancing, wow! Amazing, moving talent!

I spent lots of time at the lake this summer with DH and friends. Had great times and learned to water ski. (Hhhmmm...what shall I tackle for my 50th???)

Of couse, my Malcolm aka "Malcolmus" remains a big part of our life. He's a big boy now.

I've spent time with family. I miss being in close proximity to them. My baby sis, had more breast cancer surgery this past Friday. She is my shero fo sho! And my granddaughter is growing fast!

Remember - November 4th - Vote!!!

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Hairstyle top photo: Flex roller set using Lottabody and the
small (pink or red) curlers.

Lake shots: braid out pulled up with B-Tie

Still BlaqKofi - Still Lovin My Sisterlocks

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Many of you have written concerned about me and my locks because of my last post. I appreciate the love, but please know my locks are strong and still beautiful, so am I for that matter (smile).

Check out these photos from yesterday (Tuesday). Sunday night I washed, conditioned, moisturized and used the following rinse that I got at Walgreens for less than $5. It washes out with about 2-3 washes, but is not harmful to my locks, covers my gray and the highlighted locks.

I set my locks with bendable curlers damp from the wash, using nothing on them. I slept in the curlers and, as you can see my Sisterlocks are beautiful, shiny, healthy and still da bomb. This style will last me 1-2 weeks depending on when I choose to wash. It is my favorite style giving me body, bounce and fullness.

I know that you're accustomed to me posting only the positives, but I believe in keeping it real and helping my readers take the road less traveled.

So don't be discouraged by my bump on this lock journey, be enlightened and know that ya girl BlaqKofi is still rockin' da Sisterlocks strong and proud. I'll continue to moisturize and take better care of my babies as I did when I first fell in love with them. You know how we are, we get something that we've always longed for, then get lazy in love and don't give it the attention we once did. Anything that has gone wrong with my hair is due to my neglect - not being natural or Sisterlocks.

Remain focused, remain lifted, remain informed and, most of all,
remain natural! - Much love, BlaqKofi.